ATTENTION all dads!
Did you know... research (1) has shown that fathers who gave their babies 15 minutes of daily massage for one month were more expressive, showed more enjoyment and interaction during floor play? A father's touch is just as important for a newborn, and not only to help with the bonding process. Massaging your newborn is also equally relaxing for dad as it helps reduce stress hormone levels through the calming power of touch. Infants receiving massage, on the other hand, displayed an increase in eye contact, smiling, vocalising and reaching responses.
Encouraging fathers to be involved during labour is giving them a purpose and a place, says Susan O'Brien, MD of Boston Medical Centre (2). Once baby is born, fathers massaging their baby is a lovely way to nurture a growing relationship. It also offers mum a break, gives dads something to do with their child and to spend quality one to one time together.
As Tim Barrus said, "It takes a tough man to make a tender father". Tim is a father and child counsellor in Florida, U.S.A. Tim's article, "Nurturing" (3) offers 6 valuable points for all expectant and new fathers:
1. Never underestimate the power of an infant.
2. Learn to nurture
3. Do lots of touching
4. You are not going to be a big player in the mind of your infant.
5. Nurturing is work!
6. Nurturing doesn't end with infancy.
Idibidi Kids welcomes and encourages fathers to be involved as much as possible with the birth of their baby and to learn infant massage, with or without your wife/partner. There are many benefits of learning to massage your baby, please view http://www.idibidikids.com.au/infantmassage.htm
References:
(1) Cullen, C., Field, T., Escalona, A. & Hartshorn, K. (2000). Father-infant interactions are enhanced by massage therapy. Early Child Development and Care, 164, 41-47.
(2) Touch Connection, 2006. http://hkjpaed.org/johnson/touchconnection/index.htm
(3) "Nurturing" by Tim Barrus
Its really good research, I will share this point with my friends. "Massaging your newborn is also equally relaxing for dad as it helps reduce stress hormone levels through the calming power of touch. Infants receiving massage, on the other hand, displayed an increase in eye contact, smiling, vocalising and reaching responses."
ReplyDeleteI defended my Dissertation Research successfully in December 2013. I competed a study of five father who massaged their babies. There are some exciting results. All of what you posted is true in addition to fathers can bond as mothers do, they just have to access and availability to the baby in order to do so. The expressed a desire to relieve the mother of her responsibility with the baby and to be able to soothe their babies. In addition they showed all of the same indicators of attachment as mothers. They were sensitive to the babys' needs, they engaged and interacted with their babies, these are the first of five indicators they responded positively. In addition men who were not in the study shared with me how they still don't feel they have access as when they attended the infant care classes and the birthing classes the women teaching those classes held eye contact mostly with the mothers. We as a society have to understand that men do not grow up playing with dolls and are not conditioned to be fathers. We have to be more sensitive to how we respond to them when their child is born to encourage rather than discourage. I love your blog! Together we can!
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